On TikTok the other day I saw a video and had to stop and watch it. After I did, I saved it because it spoke to me on so many levels.
The video was the 7 questions you should ask your mother before she…dies. I still have trouble saying, writing, and thinking that word in relation to my mother.
These are the questions:
- What is your happiest memory of us ( either you and your mother, or the family as a whole)?
- What is the nicest thing I have ever done for you?
- What is the one thing you always want me to remember after you are gone?
- What was the first year of motherhood like for you?
- What do you wish most for me?
- Is there anything in our family that is a secret?
- What are the best and worst things about getting older?
Here is the saddest part of this entire exercise: I only know the answer to one of these questions. And truthfully? I wish I didn’t.
I can certainly speculate on the rest of them, but I’ll never have a definitive answer, which, for the control freak in me, is just devastating.
7 months…feels like yesterday.
Peggy Jaeger, Author 