If you could define yourself in a song, what would it be?

Many of the writers I know personally are big into play lists. They have their favorite music streaming while they write; they even come up with individual play lists for each book they pen.

Not me. Not so much. I NEED peace and quiet when I write. The one noise I love to listen to while I’m at the laptop is the sound of the rain as it comes down outside my attic loft writing room. Rain in the ultimate white noise for me. If I’ve got music on in the background, I tend to sing along and never get anything written. I envy those writers who can compose written lines while listening to background noise. Their brains work so much better at compartmentalizing than mine does.

Having said all that, I love music – of any kind. Classical to rock; rap to hip-hop; Elvis to Eminem. When I’m not writing, I listen to my playlists on my i-Pad. My favorite song of all time is Secret Agent Man by Johnny Rivers. I just got distracted and listened to it 3 times while I uploaded it to this post. See? This is why I can’t listen to music while I write.

So, that’s my favorite song. But to answer the question in the title of this blog, the song that defines me is Survivor by Destiny’s Child. Although, the Gloria Gaynor I will Survive is a pretty close second. The fact I have survived many horrible things in my life and have come out in the light instead of turning to the dark side, is a testament to my faith, my determination, and  that I believe like Eleanor Roosevelt: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” 

Now, the things I’ve survived in my life may not be as horrible or as life changing as many others have lived through. But they’ve been pretty brutal to me. I survived a fall out an apartment window when I was 18 months that all the doctors said should have killed me. It left with a face full of scars and a terrifying fear of heights. I lived through a childhood rife with functional poverty, ( for those not acquainted with this term, it simply means we lived a hair above the poverty line but could never qualify for any “assistance”),  a horrible adolescence filled with bullying, an eating disorder that still plagues me sometimes to the day, profound emotional abuse from someone I loved and trusted, family psych issues. I almost lost my daughter – twice!- and I’ve fought  melanoma. Again, others have gone through and come through much, much worse than all this. But this is what defines me.

So, Survivor is my  musical anthem…what’s yours?





Filed under Author, Contemporary Romance, Life challenges, Romance, Strong Women

8 responses to “If you could define yourself in a song, what would it be?

  1. Jennifer Parris

    I agree with you. I can’t listen to music while I write. Most people assume because I am a musician that I listen to music all the time. But I need quiet more often than not because I am so auditory.
    My favorite song or piece would be tough because it changes over time. For my life story I’d go directly to Pat Benatar. At some point, all her songs resonate with me!


    • Peggy Jaeger

      Jennifer – Pat Benatar rocks! I was going thru a baaaaad breakup when love is a battlefield came out. Back then we had RECORDS and I wore that sucker out on the spin table!


  2. Sandra Dailey

    It took a lot of courage to open up about your past. I’m not that courageous yet. The song that defines me is, I WILL SURVIVE.
    I love your favorite song. Who doesn’t sing along when SECRET AGENT MAN comes on the radio? My favorite is also an oldie – KING OF THE ROAD – by Roger Miller.
    May we both have many rainy days and stories to fill the pages for the rest of our lives.


    • Peggy Jaeger

      Love that Roger Miller! Trailers for sale or rent/rooms to let..fifty cents. Sheer poetry! And boy, I love a rainy day for writing! Thanks for stopping by.


  3. Great post! Music calms us, makes us happy. . or even sad. I have two favorites: “Sweet City Woman” and “Raindrops Keep Falling on My Head” from the movie, “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid.” I don’t think they define who I am as much as make me relive and remember a happy moment in my life.


    • Peggy Jaeger

      I remember when Butch cassidy and the Sundance Kid came out I saw it 4 times ( back when movies were $1.00!) Paul Newman will forever be my number one movie man. Happy times and happy songs/music go hand in hand, that’s why when our favorites play on the radio ( really dating myself,now!) we smile! FInd iton youtube and play it a couple’times today…you will get a smile start for sure.


  4. I cannot write without music. I can’t work without music. Yes, I’m one of “those.” Part of it is my moderate tinnitus – music masks some of that ringing in my ears. But much of it is it is how I escape from everything. I can most often be found listening to classical music, but I listen to pop, classic rock, country, bluegrass, folk, etc. I hardly ever write to music with voices/words, however, as that can sometimes be distracting. I work a high-stress job, and have a high-stress marriage and a special needs child. Escape is so very important for me, and music is part of what gets me there. I don’t know that I have a song that defines me, but as a plus-sized gal, I have a few that I really like – Fat Bottom Girls by Aerosmith, and Brick House by the Commodores. 😉


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