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There’s an old expression: If you want something done fast, give it to a busy person?
Story of my current life. Let me ‘esplain.
When I retired to write full time I thought, “Yippie! Now I get to spend all my time during my days writing down the stories that have been swirling in my head.”
That jubilation lasted about a year. With the advent of more books published, I had to start doing other things than write to ensure that my writing got seen by people so they could, you know…buy the books. ( It’s all about sales, peeps).
First came a website, then social media accounts that needed postings, then book signings, author appearances, conference presentations, media appearances, all to get my name and my work “out there.”
Soon, it wasn’t so much about the writing as it was about the selling, and my desire to write all day long the stories that had been swirling around inside me started to become secondary.
This is an example of what I’ve been working on the for the past week when I should have been concentrating on finishing a book with a July 1 deadline – a deadline that can’t be moved or added to. (And let’s remember, I’m traditionally published. If I had to do the self publishing of my work I’d probably quit because I’d have no time. Make that definitely quit because I had not time.)
- Listen to auditions for a new book going to audio.
- Listen to a completed book on audio for mistakes, changes, etc. and edit.
- Galley edits on a Christmas 2018 release.
- second round of edits for the first book in my new small town bridal series.
- work on writing the second book in my new small town bridal series.
- outline 3rd book in the new small town bridal series.
- promote ( via sm)my current book release
- promote ( via sm) my current audio relase
- finish first draft of book due COMPLETED july 1.
- blogs posts for the week for the website.
- MFRWauthor blog post for next friday.
- create sale posters for books to promote on sm
- a face book party
- read and write reviews for 3 friends’ new book releases.
- query letters to agents and editors
- sm posts to keep my name in the public eye, daily.
All of that in addition to the normal every day stuff like bathing, eating, laundry and trying to slip in a gym workout everyday. Plus, some very real and personal issues that have cropped up during the past few weeks and that are extremely time consuming, time sensitive, and soul sucking.
I don’t know how I would handle all this if I didn’t have chronic insomnia.
I’m not telling you this so you’ll feel sorry for me ( Well, maybe a smidge ***holds index finger and thumb up, almost touching!**) I’m simply lamenting that my desire to just write the stories that have been swirling around in me ( 3rd mention!! heehee)have gone the way of the dinosaur.
Another old saying? Be careful what you wish for; you just may get it.
Now you tell me!
Last week we wrote about the best gift we were ever given and I thought this week it was going to be the worst – just stood to reason in my mind. MY BAD. I have to tell you about the best gift I ever gave someone today.
Another easy peasy post to write!
From the moment she came into our world she changed our lives for ever – for the better – in every way possible. She was truly a daddy’s girl from the very start.
28 years later and she still is!
Since this is a blog hop, let’s see what some of the other authors here have to say. Click here: MFRWauthorBlogChallenge
Last week I wrote a blog post about Imposter Syndrome. I was floored by the responses I received from readers and writers after it went live. For two days my email inbox was crawling with dozens of responses about what I’d written. Most of them were from authors – some of whom I don’t know personally. A few were from readers. All of them thanked me for calling out what it is to feel like a professional failure, even though you’ve had a modicum of success. I ended that blog piece by saying, “STOP THINKING YOU ARE AN IMPOSTER AT THIS WHOLE WRITING THING. You write, ergo ( and don’t I just love being able to use that word!!) YOU ARE A WRITER!!!
Why don’t they get that?
A few authors wrote me that they felt like failures, and not “real” writers, even though they had sold thousands of books, recently signed new contracts, and generally had well known names in the romance writing community. I was stunned by these revelations. My questions to each of them was : HOW DO YOU DEFINE A REAL WRITER and HOW DO YOU DEFINE SUCCESS, because it obviously isn’t in sales, or name recognition. The other question that blew through me was WHY? Why do you feel like a failure? You’ve written a book – some of you several books. They’ve been published – some traditionally, some independently. You’ve received royalties – some a lot, some not so much, but still…money! Readers know your name. Readers await your next book release. Readers WANT to read your work. So, again, WHY do you feel like professional failures?
I’m gonna take a wild guess here to answer that question, and I’m gonna ask for a little patience while I present my case, because some of you are gonna get all hot and bothered ( and not in the good, romance reading way) about what I think.
Since I write romance, that’s the genre I’m going to latch on to here for my discussion. The majority of romance writers are WOMEN. The majority of romance readers are WOMEN. The majority of people who pay cash-money for books of all genres are WOMEN. The majority of people who read for pleasure are WOMEN. The majority of people who make the most money on the planet and are responsible for the majority of decisions made ( and most of them are bad ones!) are ( wait for it ) MEN.
The definition for professional success for most men is very different for woman. Men equate success with money, material possessions, social status, and titles ( CEO, CFO, etc.) Women equate success almost the same way, but where a man will wear his success with pride and boast about it, women, it’s been my experience…will not. They tend to brush off well meaning compliments and try to turn any conversation away from themselves.
Again, this is my opinion based on years of being around very successful MEN and WOMEN and seeing how they react so differently when given praise or asked about their accomplishments. I’ve been in a room filled equally with writers of both sexes and the male voices are usually the loudest, the ones filled with the most hubris, and the ones bragging on their next book sales. The women, when given praise about their own bestsellers and highly anticipated new releases, have typically waved off the compliments, and redirected the praise. When you ask a male writer what he is working on you get chapter, book, verse and verbal diarrhea about the plot and everything else. Women will give you an elevator pitch and then move on to another topic.
Women do not like talking about themselves. Most women, that is. There are a few who drone on incessantly as if they were the only ones on the planet or in the discussion. We all know people like that. But for the majority, women still tend to take a back seat when it comes to broadcasting their successes and this is the reason I think they feel like imposters, frauds, and are faking it.
To these wonderful woman I say OWN IT!!
Own your success. Wear it like a badge of courage for all your hard work.
I raised my daughter to be proud of herself – her successes and goal achievements. I raised her to accept her failures, learn from them and grow with them. I raised her with the knowledge she could walk through any door with her head held high, knowing she could make of herself anything she wanted. I thank the gods of everything she is the woman she was always meant to be. She doesn’t brag, but when given a compliment, accepts it, graciously. She doesn’t extol her own virtues and successes, but she doesn’t dismiss them with an embarrassed hand wave when someone mentions them, either. And she is forever lifting others up both verbally, spiritually, and emotionally.
To all the female writers I know who suffer thru imposter syndrome please know this: YOU ARE NOT AN IMPOSTER and no one has the right to make you feel less than a success.
Own it. Be it. Wear it. YOU ARE A WRITER.
If you’re looking for me, I’m usually here:
So, this past weekend sosososo many things happened. Where to start?
Always best at the beginning, right?
This past weekend I attended my very first Maine Romance Writers Retreat and conference in Portland, Maine. I was not only lucky enough to be a participant, but a presenter as well. What a wonderful, warm, welcoming, and TALENTED bunch of writers in this group! Just this year alone they have a Rita finalist and 2 Golden Heart Finalists. That’s pretty impressive, no? I gave my workshop on Baby Boomers and Romance ( euphemistically called Your Mama’s Got Game) to a rousing reception. I learned a lot. I met some new friends. And I networked with some wonderful individuals who share what I do – a love of all things romance and romance related.
Coincidentally, and really, I should say providentially, the Royal Wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle took place on Saturday morning. This, people, THIS is the stuff of what romance writers live for.
Two gorgeous people meeting, falling in love, and then having the wedding I bet every little girl dreams of at least once in their lives.
Although she wasn’t titled a PRINCESS, the new Duchess of Sussex and her Hunky Duke ( hey! That sounds like a good book title!) Meghan is a true Cinderella story if ever there was one. Don’t be surprised it there is a new wave of Prince/Commoner books published in the next few months.
Please forgive these slightly grainy, ultra cheesy photos I took while watching the wedding on the TV in my room. If I knew how to crop, I would. But, alas…
Now, combined with all this wonderfulness, it was also my birthday on Saturday. I turned 21 for the 37th time. You figure that out if you want to know how old I am, because my lips are sealed. But, isn’t it great I got to attend and present at a wonderful writers conference, AND I got to watch a royal wedding to boot, both on my day.
Le sigh. I love my life.
If you’re looking for me, I’m usually here:
Blog tours. Author promos. Interviews. Public appearances. Whew! This girl is tired with a capital T!
I’ll admit, when I started on my dream towards publication I never knew there was so much to do other than writing. I mean, come on! I was a but younger in the hay days of the publishing world where publishers sent you on physical book tours where you had to fly places, meet people, sell that book. Nowadays, I can do my book tours in my jammies with no makeup and my hair in a ponytail because most of it is done virtually.
Is it weird of me that I like the olden days approach better?
I actually enjoy meeting people ( even tho I am an introvert at heart) interacting with them, having them ask me questions. It’s fun. 99.99%of the time. And maybe it’s because I’m old school but I LIKE an autographed copy of a real print book, one that’s personalized to me. I try to make every person I meet and sell a book to feel special, because they are. That makes me feel special, too. I never miss the opportunity if it comes up to attend a book signing or a conference on writing if I can. I’ve got a few on my docket for the next few months, but more about those on a later posting.
This week I have the extreme privilege and pleasure to be attending a new event at my local independent bookstore. the SPRING SEASON AUTHOR’S OPEN HOUSE is being held at my local TOADSTOOL BOOKSHOP this Friday, April 20, for 2-5 pm.
Myself, and another author, will be speaking about the publishing industry today, writing in general, and our own writing journeys. The event is — of course– open to writers, but to the public as well. Anything that promotes reading and writing int his day and age is a good thing. There’s going to be a book signing attached to the time frame, plus some light refreshments. I’ll blog over the weekend about how it went. Say a prayer for me I don’t stutter or get uber-nervous and say something off color or inappropriate. Life, unlike writing, has no time for edits.
If you’re looking for me you can always find me here: (I”m usually in sweats or jammies, so you have to REALLY LOOK for me!)